“What’s the meaning of life?” is a question that never enters the flow state. Recognized in personal development conversations as the zone where challenge meets skill, flow is much more than a vector for achievement. It’s central to what drives meaning in life. It’s immersion itself: where we stop asking what we’re doing and instead simply do it.
Yet if you’re in the west, you live in a culture that encourages a disconnection between mind and body, a numbing of discomfort, and a prioritization of the destination over the journey. These are major flow breakers.
The disturbing reality is that…
When people use willpower to meet their goals, they either fail or operate from a place of frustration.
You know this loop. You want to change your life: write a book, build a business, or clean the paint off your floor.
These activities are fun to think about (kind of), but when you try to take action, you feel hungry, you yawn, you retreat, and finally, you grab onto your willpower and miserably bulldoze your way through a sloppy first attempt.
Later, when you’re feeling motivated again, you realize you’re caught in a vicious cycle.
Let’s look at a framework…
And bring us back into harmony with nature
People often see climate change and growing rates of chronic disease as separate issues. Yet the fact is that human and planetary health are indistinguishable. Both are part of a feedback loop that inform one another.
While industrial meat is indeed a major source of carbon emissions, the issue isn’t so much with meat itself but the production practices around it. Threats to human and planetary health go beyond factory farming. …
When you think of hypnosis, your mind might generate an image of a specialist dangling a pocket clock in front of a person’s eyes. You might also think of it as a strategy for accessing the unconscious via relaxation.
While hypnosis may involve both, these assumptions also distract from the inseparability of hypnosis and persuasive communication.
The language patterns that make hypnosis mesmerizing haunt everyday conversation. They infiltrate your conversations with others and the stories you tell yourself.
Hypnotic language patterns make unconscious imprints onto the psyche without a subject’s conscious awareness. This is what makes them powerful. Likewise, good…
How to be universally forward moving
If you’re on a personal development journey, you’ll find it easy to spot other people’s limiting beliefs. When you raise your income, heighten your concentration, or become a stronger swimmer, it’s natural to notice other people’s inconsistencies or limitations. The paradigms that motivate your friends’ thinking become firm to the touch.
Recognizing their blind spots, you’ll want to share your discoveries with people you care about. At times, you might even feel a moral obligation to do so. You might think: if this tiny tweak elevated your life, what could it do for your…
You’re not un-motivated — you’re inflamed
If you regularly feel foggy, unmotivated, and tired, you might rely on coffee, chocolate, or stimulant medication for mental clarity and concentration.
While these tools have their place, their effects are temporary. A few minutes or hours after eating a cookie or drinking coffee, you’re tense, twitchy, and/or yawning.
Plus, these are bandages, not solutions. Your fatigue isn’t simply a product of a lack of coffee. Rather, your exhaustion and lack of motivation are coordinated responses to imbalance. They’re symptoms of a larger problem, not the problem itself. They’re the alarm, not the fire.
From an early age, most people learn to distrust their feelings. Although we respect signals of being cold or hungry, we meet many of our desires with weariness, believing that our needs for play, fun, pleasure, adventure, and self-expression are part of a flawed system that we must tame through discipline and heroic feats of will.
However, this mindset forgets that all feelings are signaling mechanisms. They contain messages intended to guide behavior.
Yes, chasing your every emotion might indeed distract or mislead you. But chronically suppressing feelings, believing they’re meant to be managed, rather than reflected upon and met…
In transformational periods, it’s easy to believe that your challenges are uniquely insurmountable.
Perhaps you’re interested in starting a podcast but have three children and a massive to-do list. Or you lose motivation while you publish blog posts out of a concern that your niche is “saturated.” Neither of these situations mean you’ll fail at what you’re doing. But if these perceptions dominate your mind, you’ll have a hard time convincing yourself otherwise.
You might resent the people who have achieved what you haven’t. They become harbingers of your absence of opportunity. You think: if only you adopted blogging earlier…
If you regularly traffic in the personal development space, you know what it’s like to get fired up over a set of good ideas. Someone speaks to your desires and reminds you there is a way to get what you want.
Yet a few hours later, the sensory world blasts you with a reminder of where you are. You’ve got seven unpaid parking tickets. Your family members converse only in the language of complaints. There’s a voice within that says you’re prone to foolhardiness.
Breathe like your mood depends on it
Anxiety is not an agreeable guest. This state, when activated, feels immovable.
You might believe that the only way to surpass anxiety is to avoid what’s making you nervous or hurry up and get it over with. The other option is to change your state with coffee, black tea, alcohol, a smoothie, the internet, or another person.
Yet you have a natural relaxation remedy built into your nervous system. You don’t need to wait for the ending of a high-stakes event or until you have a tea mug in your hands.